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Being in a marriage or a long term relationship is a beautiful thing. You can run around in your messy bun and sweats with no makeup and, magically, your lover will still be there. You can pass gas in your well-worn boxers, leave the door open when you go to the bathroom, and not give it a second thought.The Japanese Formula For Happiness - Ikigai
At first, these advantages of comfort and security are a breath of fresh air. You love the fact that there is no need to worry about those things you used to do when you were first seeking attention from your partner or when you were a teen seeking attention from your high school crush. You know, things such as the way you tried on three different outfits to find one that would spark his or her interest. The way you sought to make your crush feel special by going to each of his or her athletic events and complimenting his or her special skills afterward.
The way you researched the things that pretty cheerleader or brooding guitar player liked so that you could talk about them with him or her and connect in a new way. The cold-hard truth? Nothing, my friend, could be more damaging to a relationship than this idea.
So, it would seem that a large part of keeping the spark alive in our relationships is going back to those activities we did when we were first trying to gain the attention of our love interest. What are those things? Here are a few of them. Perfectly styled. Flawlessly employed to bring out the emerald green in your eyes or make your lips look more luscious. Perfume or cologne? Just the right scent to make him or her intoxicated.
You did it all. There are two reasons. It benefits both you and your partner. Personally, looking your best can boost your confidence and make you feel desirable and sexy. This confidence can also be felt by your partner when you interact with him or her. So looking your best makes you doubly attractive: your physical appearance makes you more desirable and so does your confidence and enhanced self-esteem.
The article focuses on advice from life coach and success expert Dr. It makes me feel important. Remember when your life was more than coming home, cooking dinner, watching a series on Hulu, and going to bed? When you first met your love interest, you were likely engaged in hobbies and passions of your own. Maybe you were pursuing your education. Maybe you were going to book clubs or spending your free time visiting art museums to satisfy your love of painting or sculpture. Maybe you were taking a class on history because you have always been fascinated with the Renaissance or the Medieval period.
You had a life with interests outside of your partner. And this life likely invigorated your relationship as well. Sherrie Campbell, a marriage and family therapist, comments on the power of pursuing your own passions to revitalize your relationship in a Web MD article. And again, just as with looking your best, the benefits Bring back some passion both personal and romantic. So embrace old hobbies. Cultivate new passions, goals, or desires. Share your excitement about the things you find enjoyable, attractive, and mysteriously alluring. Chances are your partner will also find you more enjoyable, attractive, and mysteriously alluring as a result.
Things get busy. Taking care of the .
Working on work at home. Then things get boring. You forget how sexy it was when your partner talked with passion about books, how his or her deep intellect made you tingle with attraction. You forget the way he or she used to always brighten a bad day at work with gentle words while while massaging the tight knots of stress out of your body.
The reason you forget? So, get away. Go somewhere where there is no laundry to be done and no children to feed or coddle or discipline. It could be an evening excursion to a new restaurant or an afternoon escapade to the park.
Bonnie Eaker Weil. Go somewhere new with your partner for a few hours or a few days. Okay, okay. Wear the sweats and don the messy bun if you must. Wear the thread-bare muscle shirt but make sure it shows off your toned biceps in just the right way.
When your partner comes home sweaty from a workout, tell him or her you have been wanting he or she to put other, more enjoyable ways to get sweaty and burn calories on the agenda. Subtle hints and innuendos, simple compliments, a kind [or kinky] text or even a lingering touch or instance of eye contact can restart a romantic fire.
In an article in Bustlerelationship coach Chris Armstrong comments on the dangers of not making flirting a habit in a secure relationship. So kick your flirting into high gear. And I bet you know just to do with those precious minutes, right? So do your homework. And watch your long term relationship ignite into flames of passion that keep you both coming back for more.
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